This message is too subtle for a four year old to grasp. It can only be understood in absolutes. Which means that Violet needs to know that if she doesn’t want to kiss somebody then she shouldn’t. She also needs to understand that I will always back her unequivocally, no matter how embarrassing this will be to me, or the person asking for a kiss.
I suspect this message will be too hard for many adults to grasp. Much head shaking and scoffing will no doubt ensue. There was a tinge of that in my own reaction on first scan. This article deserves a more careful read and some thought. I think she is right.
Personal boundaries are taught — and they should be taught — early and consistently.
This is the central tenant of Body Safety and should not be taught in isolation.