Let's Talk About Body Boundaries — Children's Book Bronze Award in Foreword INDIES 2018

We are thrilled to have received the news that our book 'Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect' has been selected for a Bronze Award in the 2018 Foreword INDIES!

Children’s book ' Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect ' recognised in the 2018 Foreword INDIES with a Bronze Award in the Juvenile Non-fiction category!

Children’s book 'Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect' recognised in the 2018 Foreword INDIES with a Bronze Award in the Juvenile Non-fiction category!

Over 2,000 entries were submitted in 56 categories, with Foreword’s editors choosing approximately 10 finalists per genre. Those finalists were then mailed to individual librarians and booksellers charged with picking the Gold, Silver, and Bronze winners.

Find out more about this book at: https://e2epublishing.info/shop/lets-talk-about-body-boundaries-consent-and-respect


We also had 'Who Am I? I Am Me!' selected as a Top Ten Finalist in the Children's Picture Books, Early Reader category!

Find out more about this book at: https://e2epublishing.info/shop/who-am-i


Read the Foreword INDIES press release at: https://www.forewordreviews.com/articles/article/announcing-the-2018-foreword-indies-winners/

The Gold/Silver/Bronze winners of the Juvenile Non-Fiction category: https://www.forewordreviews.com/awards/winners/2018/juvenile-nonfiction/


12 tips for parents to help an anxious child

Here are a few ideas that you can use to help your child overcome anxiety. You don’t have to try them in any particular order. Children may respond differently to the different tasks, so be guided by their reactions as to which is most beneficial to them at the time. Please note: this is not an exhaustive list of things you can do — if you are concerned about your child’s level of anxiety, make sure to seek advice from a mental health professional.

Tips for parents, from the children’s book " How Big Are Your Worries, Little Bear? ", a beautifully illustrated story written to help children manage and overcome anxiety, anxious thoughts, stress and fearful situations.

Tips for parents, from the children’s book "How Big Are Your Worries, Little Bear?", a beautifully illustrated story written to help children manage and overcome anxiety, anxious thoughts, stress and fearful situations.

  • Explain what anxiety is to help the child recognise it and understand what is happening.

  • Introduce calming techniques and mindfulness:

    • give a slow breathing task

    • use the five senses grounding task

    • do some yoga stretches

  • Physical reassurance - ask if you can give them a hug or hold their hand.

  • Art therapy - to help express feelings they can’t put into words.

  • Verbal action - tell the worry to “Go away!"

  • Recognise even the smallest efforts and build the child’s confidence to ‘have a go’.

  • Do something fun together to give the child a break from their worries.

  • Try to not ‘fix’ everything - children need to learn how to cope and overcome challenges.

  • Help the child to write or draw a checklist of anxiety-busting strategies.

  • Visualisation - ask them to remember a time when they overcame anxiety previously.

  • Visualisation - ask the child to draw what it will look like when they have overcome their anxiety-inducing situation.

  • Model your own techniques - show or explain what you choose to do when you feel anxious.

These hints are expanded upon in the back of the children’s book "How Big Are Your Worries, Little Bear?", a beautifully illustrated story written to help children manage and overcome anxiety, anxious thoughts, stress and fearful situations.

How Big Are Your Worries Little Bear?

Little Bear is a worrier. He worries about everything! But with Mama Bear’s help, he soon learns his worries are not so big after all. Through this engaging story children will learn that everyday worries and fears can be overcome. Discussion questions and extra hints to help children manage anxiety are included.

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More resources to help teach Social and Emotional Intelligence:

Social and Emotional Intelligence Bundle

Learning to recognise how another is feeling, showing kindness, and taking the time to really listen develops our ability to connect to one another in compassionate and meaningful ways. Story is the perfect vehicle to help children learn these strategies and how to cope with the many challenges of life they will encounter as they grow into adulthood. The four books in this bundle explore these topics in a way all children will relate to and engage with.

Included:

  • You, Me and Empathy

  • How Big Are Your Worries Little Bear?

  • Resilience

  • Talking About Feelings

Optional Extra: 12 Lesson Plans for Teachers ($10AU), covering the topic of Social and Emotional Intelligence. Total price shown above will update if this option is selected.

Teaching Children Social and Emotional Intelligence — Books and Resources

On this page we have collated all of our resources specifically for teaching children Social and Emotional Intelligence. The resources include books, lesson plans, free posters and activities.

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Why teach Social and Emotional Intelligence? Learning to recognise how another is feeling, showing kindness, and taking the time to really listen, develops our ability to connect to one another in compassionate and meaningful ways. Teaching children strategies on how to cope with challenging situations will help their self-confidence as they grow into adulthood. 

A child who is encouraged to be socially and emotionally intelligent from an early age will grow to be a confident, thoughtful and caring person.


Free resources:

Posters

Activities/Worksheets

Blog articles

Shop: Books & Teaching Resources

You may also like our children’s book Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect (from our Body Safety & Consent books) which teaches children about body ownership, respectful relationships, feelings and emotions, choices and recognising bullying behaviours. Best suited for ages 4-10 years.




Customer note: We ship our products worldwide from Melbourne, Australia. Individual books (including some non-English versions) are also available to purchase from Amazon, which may provide more economic shipping cost to US, UK and other Northern Hemisphere locations.


The resources featured on this page are proudly produced by Educate2Empower Publishing.

Educate2Empower Publishing is an international award winning niché children's book publisher who specializes in children's books on Body Safety, Consent, Gender Equality, Respectful Relationships, and Social and Emotional Intelligence

Our books combine beautiful illustrations with key educational concepts capturing the child's imagination as well as teaching them messages crucial to their development and safety.

Empowering children through age-appropriate stories, activities, important lessons and skills, and the encouragement of communication and discussion. The books can also be used to help prevent or overcome bullying, whilst promoting mental health, equality and diversity. Ideal for use and purchase by anyone who cares for children, including parents, school/kindergarten teachers, social workers, psychologists, community health services, family support services, and many more!

8 Ways That Children’s Books Encourage Gender Equality

A number of children’s books continue to reinforce gender stereotyping, i.e. girls are beautiful, charming, quiet and well-mannered; boys are strong, powerful, assertive and rarely show their emotions. It is important that we identify these and ensure our children also read books that defy these stereotypes so that equality between genders becomes normal.

‘There is no doubt that violence against women and children is deeply rooted in power imbalances that are reinforced by gender norms and stereotypes.’ 
(p2, State of Victoria, Royal Commission into Family Violence: Summary and recommendations, Parl Paper No 132 (2014–16)). 

To help reduce gender stereotyping, consider these points in the books your kids are reading… 

  1. Are girls portrayed as strong characters? 

  2. Are boys portrayed as kind and caring? 

  3. Are girls daring, brave and smart? 

  4. Are boys portrayed as nurturing and loving? 

  5. Are girls resilient problem solvers? 

  6. Are boys respectful to all genders? 

  7. Are girls interested in science, technology, engineering, maths, outdoors, adventuring? 

  8. Are boys able to, and encouraged to, express their feelings?


There are many classic and well-loved children’s stories that unfortunately do reinforce the damaging stereotypical views that women/girls are delicate and inferior to men/boys who are powerful and strong. You do not need to remove these from your bookshelves — but do make sure to use these as great teaching opportunities. Discuss the characters with your children and how they could be different, or rewrite and draw the story together with the character’s genders swapped.

Download a printable PDF of the Kid’s Book Checklist

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SHOP: Books and resources to help promote Gender Equality

Limited Offer: FREE Lesson Plans for teaching Body Safety and Consent!

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To help you make a difference to the children in your care, 

we are making our Body Safety and Consent Lesson Plans available 
for free download from our website.

Age-appropriate content, suitable for Preschool, Kindergarten, Primary or Elementary School classes.

This offer will end on Wednesday 15th May 2019. The lesson plans will still be available after this date, but for purchase only.


To get your free Lesson Plans:

  1. go to our Body Safety & Consent Lesson Plans Download page, choose the A4 or US version*

  2. Add To Cart,

  3. and use coupon code FREELESSON in the checkout!

* The Lesson Plans are available in A4 page size (English UK) or US letter size (English US)

What’s in the Lesson Plans?

18 fully developed lesson plans incorporating questions and activities based on the messages in our Body Safety and Consent books, to help you convey important and empowering life skills to your students.

Included: key outcomes, teaching notes, resource masters, whole class and individual activities!

Written by Jayneen Sanders (experienced Primary School teacher and award-winning author in the educational sector) and Yale Merceica (experienced Primary School teacher and author).

Empower the children in your care with knowledge on Body Safety, Respect and Consent - essential education to help prevent child abuse.

These lesson plans will help your school, kindergarten or childcare centre to meet the Child Safe Standards Number 7  (Victoria) and to implement recommendations from Vol 6: Making Institutions Child Safe (2.5) in the Final Report from the Royal Commission 2018 (Australia-wide).


The Lesson Plans are available in hardcopy as an optional extra with purchase of our Body Safety & Consent Bundle, or just the Lesson Plans if you already have the books!



April is Child Abuse Prevention Month

April is an important month, globally designated for sexual assault awareness AND for child abuse prevention!

If you haven't yet started educating your children/students in Body Safety,
NOW is the time to start! 

If you have previously educated your children in Body Safety,
you can use this as an opportunity to check in
and see if they have retained the essential information.

 

You can also make a difference for other children and families within your community. Children living within abusive homes are not likely to receive Body Safety Education unless they can access it through their teachers. Speak with the people in charge at your school, kindergarten, childcare centre, or even sporting groups, and ask them what policies they have in place for protecting children. Let them know about our resources which make teaching Body Safety easy, fun, and most importantly age-appropriate for young children.



A Global Issue

In an effort to empower as many children as we can, we are translating our My Body Safety Rules poster into different languages and making all of them available for free download from our website.

At this time we have English UK, English US, and 16 other languages available! If you have family, friends or students who could use these, please spread the word.

Our My Body Safety Rules poster is currently available in English UK/US, Afrikaans, Arabic, Bulgarian, Danish, French, German, Hungarian, Indonesian, Italian, Malaysian, Mongolian, Romanian, Spanish, Swedish, Vietnamese, and Xhosa.

If you are able to provide a translation for another language, we would love to hear from you! Please visit our page for guidelines and template.
 

Book Translations and International Distribution

At Education2Empower Publishing, our books are initially written and published in English, and made available for purchase via our website shop and also on Amazon sites. Our content is globally relevant, and so we are endeavouring to have our book content translated and available in countries around the world.

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We currently have a number of titles translated and available on Amazon:

  • "Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept" is available in Spanish, Italian, Chinese, Japanese, German, and French translations.

  • Spanish editions of "No Means No!", "You, Me and Empathy", and "No Difference Between Us" are also available.

 

Some books have also been translated to local languages and/or are available in:

World Vision India has produced and is distributing these Indian translations of My Body! What I Say Goes!

World Vision India has produced and is distributing these Indian translations of My Body! What I Say Goes!

If you would like the opportunity to translate and distribute our books in your area, please contact us.

 


A few things that YOU can do to help prevent child abuse.

Parents: If you’re reading this, you quite likely already have some (if not all) of our books and resources. This is fantastic! Your children are already being empowered with prevention education. But there is more you can do:

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  • Make sure to read and discuss your books/resources with your children more than once. Especially the My Body Safety Rules skillset (available as free downloadable posteranimation or explained in-depth within the My Body! What I Say Goes! children's book). Numerous readings and discussions will help to reinforce the skillset, so that children quickly remember what they can do in a situation where they feel unsafe.
     

  • Display the My Body Safety Rules poster in common areas (ie. on the fridge) - this can serve as both a reminder for your children, and also a deterrent for any unsuspected predator that may come into your home.
     

  • Ask your school if they are teaching Body Safety Education. If they aren't, print off a copy of our Catalogue and give it to them. There is no reason why they can't provide this education, and every reason why they should! Children who have abusers in their homes should not be left to fall through the cracks. It will also help the school decision makers to know that they have many parents in their community who are in support of prevention education being taught at school.
     

  • Spread the word! Talk to other parents about this - friends, family and other community groups. Forward this email to them. Give them our website address. Share our social pages. Check in at your local library to see if they have our books on the shelves, and if they don't, make a request for them to get them in.







Educators: 

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If you are a decision maker at your workplace, please ensure that your teachers are including Body Safety Education in their schedule. With simple professional development, teachers can teach Body Safety; two, 30-minute lessons over five weeks is all it takes to impart this crucial knowledge to children. Or you may be able to secure the services of a specialist educator in the Body Safety/ Protective Behaviours area, who can travel out to your school and run the classes for you.
If you are not a decision maker at your school or workplace, and you know that Body Safety Education is not yet part of the curriculum - PLEASE make an official request for it to be introduced. If you don't do it - who will? 

Our latest resources, specifically for teachers, are Lesson Plans that are integrated with the content of our books. With fun and engaging class-based activities to help reinforce the messages from the books.

Our Teacher's Resource Kit is a comprehensive collection that includes not just our books, but also a range of teaching materials, professional development PowerPoint presentation for teachers and information that you can use to inform parents about the education. This Kit covers all bases and makes it easy for schools to implement Body Safety and Respectful Relationships Education.

Lesson Plans for Teachers, Childcare Workers and Educators

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Lesson Plans for Body Safety & Consent.
Written by Jayneen Sanders and Yale Merceica, these 18 fully developed lesson plans incorporate questions and activities based on the messages in our books, to help you convey important and empowering life skills to your students.

The content is age-appropriate and suitable for Preschool and Primary/Elementary School classes.

Available as an optional extra with purchase of our Body Safety & Consent Bundle, or just the Lesson Plans if you already have the books!


Does your local school or childcare centre have our Body Safety and Consent books in their library?


We'd like you to ask this question of your local school, kindergarten or childcare centre TODAY! If their answer is no, then they need to seriously consider these resources. Our books, teaching kits and lesson plans now make it easier than ever to educate children in Body Safety, and help prevent child sexual abuse.

If you already have these books, please write to us and let us know how you and your children (or students) have reacted to the stories and messages within. Which elements were most helpful to you?

You can find all of our books and teaching kits for sale in the online shop on our website www.e2epublishing.info/shop (shipping to AUS/NZ) or if you are located in the Northern hemisphere, you can find all of our books individually on Amazon US or Amazon UK.

E2E children's books — FINALISTS in the 2018 Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Awards

We were thrilled to receive the news that two of our latest publications have been selected as finalists in the 2018 Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Awards!

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Congratulations to author Jayneen Sanders and illustrators Sarah Jennings and Diane Ewen!

Finalist in Juvenile Non-Fiction: Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect

Finalist in Children’s Picture Books, Early Reader: Who Am I? I Am Me!


As part of its mission to discover, review, and share the best books from university and independent publishers, Foreword Magazine, Inc. (@forewordreviews) hosts an annual awards program each year. Finalists represent the best books published in 2018. After more than 2,000 individual titles spread across 56 genres were submitted for consideration, the list of finalists was determined by Foreword’s editorial team. Winners will be decided by an expert team of booksellers and librarians—representing Foreword’s readership.

The 2018 Foreword INDIES winners are scheduled to be announced Friday, June 14, 2019! Wish us luck!!


Foreword INDIES press release: https://www.forewordreviews.com/awards/finalists/2018/press-release/

Full List of finalists for 2018: https://www.forewordreviews.com/awards/finalists/2018/all/

Finalists by Category: https://www.forewordreviews.com/awards/finalists/2018/


Find out more about these two books, and the others in our collection at www.e2epublishing.info/shop 

A Body Safety Message for the Holiday Season

Holiday season is upon us, and our kids are about to spend A LOT of time around people — family, extended family, friends, friends of friends, acquaintances and total strangers. They will be in amongst groups of people at family gatherings, Christmas parties, carol nights, NYE celebrations, camping grounds, parks, swimming pool or beach (or ski resorts if you’re in the Northern Hemisphere) , shopping centres, cinemas, etc.

We cannot stress enough how important it is for your children to be educated in Body Safety, especially at this time of year!

Give your kids:

  • the gift of confidence, in knowing what they can do if they feel worried, unsafe, unsure, intimidated,

  • the gift of being able to recognise what is inappropriate behaviour,

  • the gift of understanding what consent means and what rights they have, especially in relation to their own body.

Give yourself the gift of peace of mind, knowing you have done everything you can to help keep your children safe and happy.


Teaching the key messages of Body Safety is easy. 

They are positive messages that are age-appropriate for children. You can start with our free resources: 

My Body Safety Rules poster — available in 14 languages! See ALL posters…

We recommend that you put the poster up in your children’s bedroom/playroom so that they have easy access and a reminder of the rules whenever they need them. The fridge is a great place to put it too, so any visitors in your house know that your children are educated in Body Safety. The double benefit of this is, 1. deterring potential predators, and 2. educating other families or children who don’t know about Body Safety.


You can also gift the knowledge of Body Safety to your local community - take a printed poster to your local swimming pool, sporting club, hospital or shopping centre and ask if they can pin it up in a prominent place, on their noticeboard, or outside public toilets.



If you want to know more about WHY and HOW to teach your children Body Safety, please read this comprehensive article: Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse


Our collection of children’s books also provide many important messages and skills, with engaging dialogue and beautiful colour illustrations to help you empower your children in a fun and positive way.


Lesson Plans for Teachers: Body Safety; Gender Equality; Social and Emotional Intelligence

ATTENTION Teachers! We have just released some new resources: Lesson Plans for the topics of Body Safety, Gender Equality, and Social and Emotional Intelligence. 

Written by Jayneen Sanders and Yale Merceica, these fully developed lesson plans incorporate questions and activities based on the messages in our books, to help you convey important and empowering life skills to your students. The content is age-appropriate and suitable for Preschool and Primary/Elementary School classes.

The Lesson Plans include: key outcomes, teaching notes, resource masters, whole class and individual activities integrated with the reading of our books to make the teaching process easier for you.

The Lesson Plans are modular and available as a purchase option with each of our Book Bundles:


For anyone who already has the books, the Lesson Plans can be purchased separately.


For even more teaching resources, our very successful and comprehensive Body Safety Education Teacher’s Resource Kit is available in Preschool and Primary School Editions. As well as including books and teaching notes, the Teacher’s Resource Kit also includes an Activity Book, activity resource masters, parent information letter and hand-out, access to Powerpoint files for in-servicing teachers and parent information sessions, full-colour printed posters, and laminated Safe/Unsafe cards.

15 Key Communication Skills for Students

The following communication skills may be helpful for students when discussing or debating ideas in a group situation.

Let everyone have a turn at speaking.

1. Allow everyone in the group a chance to speak and acknowledge what they said respectfully, e.g. “I hear and understand what you said and I agree/disagree. I think … because …”

Don’t make fun or discount another person’s ideas.

2. Speak about ideas and not about a person/s.

Listen to others when it’s their turn. Listening to other’s ideas is how we learn.

3. Do not dominate the conversation; allow each person a turn to speak.

Do not dominate the conversation; allow each person a turn to speak.

Do not dominate the conversation; allow each person a turn to speak.

4. Listen and don’t interrupt or talk over others, allowing each speaker to finish his/her point.

5. Listen with empathy, respect and courtesy, be mindful of others feelings/passions as they speak.

Take time to talk about and explore ideas.

6. Give those in the group time to think about and understand the discussion before moving on.

7. All speakers should try to keep to the point and focus on the topic at hand and not be distracted.

8. Be aware of your own biases.

9. Have an open mind to changing your stance if the evidence is clear.

10. Endeavor to build an understanding of the content and context of the debate.

11. If the aim of the group is to work towards a shared solution/outcome, be open-minded and flexible without compromising your values.

Ask questions of others.

12. Ask clarifying questions.

Don’t be afraid to speak up. Your voice matters.

13. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion if it is in disagreement with the majority.

14. All voices count and all voices matter, be respectful of this.

Don’t take the argument with you.

15. Leave disagreements around the topic behind when leaving the room.


Jayneen Sanders (aka Jay Dale) is a teacher, author, mother of three and writes children’s books on Body SafetyGender EqualityConsentRespect and Social and Emotional Intelligence

All Jayneen’s books are available at www.e2epublishing.info and Amazon.

 

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Jay Sanders

Jayneen (Jay) Sanders is an experienced primary school teacher and a successful children's book author. She is also the mother of three teenage girls and has been a primary school councillor for over seven years. Her time spent in primary schools inspired her to ask: ‘What are we doing in schools to protect our children from sexual interference?’ When she realised very little was actually being done, she decided to write a book to help parents, carers and teachers to broach the subject of self-protection and to encourage children to speak up.

This is why we need to stop using gender stereotypes and promote gender equality in our homes and schools

'The causes of family violence are complex and include gender inequality and community attitudes towards women...There is no doubt that violence against women and children is deeply rooted in power imbalances that are reinforced by gender norms and stereotypes.'
(p2, State of Victoria, Royal Commission into Family Violence: Summary and recommendations, Parl Paper No 132 (2014–16).


'Stereotypes about men and women are reinforced through practices such as social tolerance of discrimination and the idea that violence against women is sometimes justified by women’s behaviour—for example, if a woman has sex with another man. Gender inequality is itself influenced by other forms of inequality such as race, disability, socio-economic status, geography and the impacts of colonisation. For this reason prevention efforts need to focus on these population-level risks, or root causes, in order to address the conditions in which violence against women can thrive.’
(p17, State of Victoria, Royal Commission into Family Violence: Report and recommendations Vol I, Parl Paper No 132 (2014–16).


As parents and teachers, we hold the keys to reducing gender inequality and consequently reducing family violence. For many of us, gender stereotyping is ingrained in the way we were brought up as children, and the way we act as adults. We do need to stop and think about the subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) ways in which we promote gender stereotypes and actively work to change this.

To help with this, please use our posters (free to download, print and display):
- Tips on promoting Gender Equality in the Classroom
- We All Have A Job To Do (with included teaching notes PDF download)

You may also find our children’s books on Gender Equality useful:

If you are a woman, remember this...

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This poem is dedicated to the young woman I met on the weekend.

Don’t say sorry before you speak. Just speak. What you have to say is important. 
Don’t say sorry because you are taking up space. It’s your space, you own it.
Don’t say sorry because you don’t want that drink he wants you to have.
Don’t say sorry because you want a night in not out.
Don’t say sorry because your boss screwed up, not you.
Don’t say sorry because you love dessert and no one else does. 
Don’t say sorry because your test results were higher than his.
Don’t say sorry because your body can’t do what others can do.
Don’t say sorry when a customer shouts at you.
Don’t say sorry when he wants sex and you don’t. 
Don’t say sorry for being a woman.

Jayneen Sanders

Jayneen Sanders is a mother, a teacher, an advocate for the prevention of child abuse, an advocate for gender equality, and the author of empowering children’s books including Who Am I? I Am Me!, No Difference Between Us, No Means No!, Pearl Fairweather, Pirate Captain, and Resilience.

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Jay Sanders

Jayneen (Jay) Sanders is an experienced primary school teacher and a successful children's book author. She is also the mother of three teenage girls and has been a primary school councillor for over seven years. Her time spent in primary schools inspired her to ask: ‘What are we doing in schools to protect our children from sexual interference?’ When she realised very little was actually being done, she decided to write a book to help parents, carers and teachers to broach the subject of self-protection and to encourage children to speak up.

In This Classroom You Are Loved

I am writing this blog to acknowledge, honour and thank all the wonderful teachers out there who are beginning the school year in the Northern Hemisphere, and all my fellow teachers who are working so hard to ensure kids are loved, safe and nurtured in the Southern Hemisphere.

Here’s what I know: a teacher can make all the difference to a child’s life. They can make a massive difference in a positive way, but conversely, they can leave a negative imprint as in the case of my own preschool teacher who stood my five-year-old self on a chair, in front of the whole class, and not only scolded me for being dumb but hit my legs with a ruler because I could not fold my kinder square into the origami shape she was modelling. I have never ever taught or attempted origami again (even though I lived in Japan for three years as a young woman) and it took some years to undo the 'dumb' tag.

That aside, when I was a beginning teacher in a small country town in Queensland, Australia during the early 80s, I had a young boy called John in my class. He was a beautiful boy — kind, helpful, friendly and tried his utmost to be the best he could be. His home life was not so brilliant. He came from a large family with very little means, and whom I suspect, tried their best for their children even though life was very difficult. John often came to school inadequately dressed for the climate and had an aura of neglect. But in our first year classroom of 25 kids, he was loved. He was part of a close-knit team. He was safe. He was valued and he was cared for. I had the privilege to set up a classroom where everyone was valued, everyone felt important and everyone had a voice. I had the opportunity to model kindness and compassion, and to reinforce these core human values to my students.

As teachers we can do this. We have the opportunity to set up a welcoming classroom environment. We can actually shape our students’ futures by how they see and value themselves. This is powerful. Never underestimate how important you are in your students’ lives and how important your classroom is to each and every little person (or big as in the case of teenagers) in it. Your classroom can be a safe haven from their ‘other’ lives where adversity and trauma may be ever present. Your classroom can be a nurturing place where each and every student feels loved and valued.

So, enjoy your year ahead and I’d like to personally thank you for being that one adult in a child’s life who really does care.

Jayneen Sanders (aka Jay Dale) is a teacher, author, mother of three and writes children’s books on Body SafetyGender EqualityConsentRespect and Social and Emotional Intelligence

Image from Resilience by Jayneen Sanders www.e2publishing.info

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Jay Sanders

Jayneen (Jay) Sanders is an experienced primary school teacher and a successful children's book author. She is also the mother of three teenage girls and has been a primary school councillor for over seven years. Her time spent in primary schools inspired her to ask: ‘What are we doing in schools to protect our children from sexual interference?’ When she realised very little was actually being done, she decided to write a book to help parents, carers and teachers to broach the subject of self-protection and to encourage children to speak up.

Children’s book author Jayneen Sanders interviewed on The Sue Atkins Parenting Show – Body Safety and other ways to Empower Children

Children’s book author Jayneen Sanders interviewed on The Sue Atkins Parenting Show – Body Safety and other ways to Empower Children

We were thrilled when Sue Atkins (internationally recognised TV and Radio Parenting Expert) contacted us to set up an interview with Educate2Empower author and founder, Jayneen Sanders…

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Body Safety Hints for Tweens and Teenagers

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You are growing up and your body is changing, but keeping yourself safe from harm is still the same as when you were younger. Remember YOUR body is YOUR body and no one has the right to touch it if you don’t want them to.

1. Don't allow a person to touch any part of your body or come inside your body boundary if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Speak your mind and tell them to STOP. Make a scene if necessary. Or tell a trusted adult if they won’t listen to you. No one has the right to touch you anywhere or come very close to you if YOU don’t want them to.

2. No one should ask to see your private parts, show you their private parts, ask you to touch their private parts or show you pictures of private parts. If they do, you need to get away quickly and tell a trusted adult straightaway. Asking you to do these things is NOT okay.

3. Giving your ‘consent’ means you have happily said ‘Yes’ to doing something, for example, you may say ‘Yes’ to holding hands or kissing. If some one tries to convince you and/or puts pressure on you to do a sexual act that you DO NOT want to do, this is NOT okay. Even if you feel like you can’t say ‘No’ to that person or you say ‘Maybe’ or ‘I’m not sure’ this does NOT mean ‘Yes’. What that person is doing is called ‘coercion’ and you need to tell a trusted adult straightaway. Remember you DO NOT have to do anything you don’t want to do. Your body is YOUR body!

4. If someone asks you to send them naked pictures of yourself, you do not have to do this. When you are under 18 it is actually against the law to send naked pictures to another person.

5. Do not disclose any personal information online or offline. This includes your address, school, phone number, etc. Make sure if you go out that a trusted adult knows where you are going.

6. When you are dating, both you and your partner need to be respectful of each other. Be wary of anyone who tries to control:

• what you do (they may read your texts or stalk you on social media or in life)

• what you say and/or

• where you go.

Violence (or the threat of violence) of any sort including intimidation, yelling and striking is NEVER okay. This is not respectful and this is NOT love.

7. When you are dating you ALWAYS have the right to change you mind. This may mean that you don’t want to date that person anymore. This may also include changing your mind and stopping a sexual activity that you may have agreed to in the past. Remember you have the right to change your mind at any time and this needs to be respected. When you say ‘No’ or ‘Stop’ the other person MUST stop.

8. Always trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe or a person makes you feel unsafe, act straightaway. Leave the situation and go to someone you trust and who makes you feel safe.

9. Remember you are NEVER EVER to blame if someone is disrespectful, violent, doesn’t listen to your wishes and/or tries to coerce you into something you don't want to do. All blame lies with that person. Never worry about making a scene. Be loud if you need to be to stop their actions. Never feel shameful or guilty because of another person's actions.

10. It is okay to go on dates and to flirt and to have fun. This does NOT mean you have agreed to any sexual contact. Remember when you say ‘No’ or you don’t say anything at all, this DOES NOT mean ‘Yes’. And even if you do say ‘Yes’ you can withdraw that consent at any time and change your mind. The person who is with you must respect your change of mind and stop.

It is important that you have a loud and strong voice. Remember it is your body and what you say goes!

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Jay Sanders

Jayneen (Jay) Sanders is an experienced primary school teacher and a successful children's book author. She is also the mother of three teenage girls and has been a primary school councillor for over seven years. Her time spent in primary schools inspired her to ask: ‘What are we doing in schools to protect our children from sexual interference?’ When she realised very little was actually being done, she decided to write a book to help parents, carers and teachers to broach the subject of self-protection and to encourage children to speak up.

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10 Best Children’s Books to Help Kids with Anxiety

Here are ten fantastic books to help children understand, manage and overcome anxiety, worry and stress — providing through story, lessons and coping strategies that will stay with them as they grow up, facing the challenges that life throws at us.

1. How Big Are Your Worries Little Bear?
by Jayneen Sanders

Little Bear is a worrier. He worries about everything! But with Mama Bear’s help, he soon learns his worries are not so big after all.
Through this engaging and beautifully illustrated story, children will learn that everyday worries and fears can be overcome. It just takes a willingness to share with a helpful listener, and an understanding that making mistakes is how we learn.
Also included are helpful Discussion Questions for parents, caregivers and educators, and extra hints to help children manage anxiety.
Available in Australia from www.e2epublishing.info
and on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2iniWZ9] and UK [http://amzn.to/2AWRgFg] customers

 

2. Hey Warrior!
by Karen Young

A fantastic book to help children understand what actually happens in their brain when they experience anxiety. Kids can do amazing things with the right information. Understanding why anxiety feels the way it does, and where the physical symptoms come from, is a powerful step in turning anxiety around. This book is an amazing resource for kids 5 years and above who feel anxious and overwhelmed by those feelings.
Available at http://www.heysigmund.com/product/hey-warrior/

 

3. The Huge Bag of Worries
by Virginia Ironside

Wherever Jenny goes, her worries follow her — in a big blue bag. They are there when she goes swimming, when she is watching TV, and even when she is in the lavatory. Jenny decides they will have to go. But who can help her? A great book to use with anxious children as it helps sort worries through and make them seem more manageable. It emphasizes that we all have worries and what to do about them.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2iWiqVY] and UK [http://amzn.to/2jhUVDM] customers

 

4. When My Worries Get too Big
by Kari Dunn Buron

More than any other issue, 'losing control' can cause major problems for children. Through the irresistible character of Nicholas, this book gives young children an opportunity to explore with parents or teachers their own feelings as they react to events in their daily lives while learning some useful relaxation techniques. Children who use the simple strategies presented in this charming book, illustrated by the author, will find themselves relaxed and ready to work or play.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2iWkhtU] and UK [http://amzn.to/2iUw7Vm] customers

 

5. What to Do When You Worry Too Much
by Dawn Huebner

"What to Do When You Worry Too Much" is an interactive self-help book designed to guide 6-12 year olds and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques most often used in the treatment of generalized anxiety. Engaging, encouraging, and easy to follow, this book educates, motivates, and empowers children to work towards change. It includes a note to parents.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2kmUY4x] and UK [http://amzn.to/2iYJynm] customers

 

6. It's Okay to Make Mistakes
by Todd Parr

This book, suitable for younger children, embraces life's happy accidents, the mistakes and mess-ups that can lead to self-discovery. Todd Parr brings a timely theme to life with his signature bold, kid-friendly illustrations and a passion for making readers feel good about themselves, encouraging them to try new things, experiment, and dare to explore new paths.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2AtlK14] and UK [http://amzn.to/2ipKRrv] customers

 


7. Wilma Jean the Worry Machine
by Julia Cook

Everyone feels fear, worry and apprehension from time to time, but when these feelings prevent a person from doing what he/she wants and/or needs to do, anxiety becomes a disability. This fun and humorous book addresses the problem of anxiety in a way that relates to children of all ages. It offers creative strategies for parents and teachers to use that can lessen the severity of anxiety. The goal of the book is to give children the tools needed to feel more in control of their anxiety.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2ji0diC] and UK [http://amzn.to/2imynkq] customers

 

8. David and the Worry Beast
by Anne Marie Guanci

David could not stop thinking about the basket he had missed at the end of the big game. He was worried that he might do it again. He was worried that his team mates would be angry with him. He was worried that his parents would not be proud of him. He was also worried about an upcoming math test. In fact, David was worried a lot. " Luckily, David finally confided in his parents and school nurse, both of whom gave him support and techniques for controlling the "worry beast" within him.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2zRYbfc] and UK [http://amzn.to/2imyqN8] customers

 

9. When Worry Takes Hold
by Liz Haske

One night just before the lights went out, Worry snuck into Maya's mind. Worry grew bigger and bigger until there was no space left for anything else; just darkness and fear. Maya finally finds Courage, through the form of a calming breath, and learns how to break free from Worry's hold.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2inzAI9] and UK [http://amzn.to/2iXpvFR] customers

 

10.  100th Day Worries
by Margery Cuyler

When Jessica's teacher tells everyone in class to find 100 things to bring to school for their 100th day, Jessica starts to worry. She wants to bring something really good but what? 100 marshmallows? No, too sticky. 100 yo-yos? Nah, that's silly. When Jessica reaches the 99th day, she really starts to worry. She still doesn't know what to bring! This book explores general anxiety through the familiar scenario of school by providing the reader with helpful strategies to mange everyday worries.
Available on Amazon for US [http://amzn.to/2BLOjF9] and UK [http://amzn.to/2iXq02H] customers

 

For more great books and resources to empower children, see the complete range at http://www.e2epublishing.info/books

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Jay Sanders

Jayneen (Jay) Sanders is an experienced primary school teacher and a successful children's book author. She is also the mother of three teenage girls and has been a primary school councillor for over seven years. Her time spent in primary schools inspired her to ask: ‘What are we doing in schools to protect our children from sexual interference?’ When she realised very little was actually being done, she decided to write a book to help parents, carers and teachers to broach the subject of self-protection and to encourage children to speak up.

#NoMore #MeToo for the Next Generation

I say #NoMore #MeToo for the next generation. We can stop this! As active and engaged parents, caregivers, educators and health professionals we can help stop sexual assault, so our kids will grow into adulthood free from sexploitation, misogyny, gender inequality and sexual assault. How do we do this? We EDUCATE our kids — the next generation — from the day they are born.

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Kids need to know:

1. that they have rights, a voice and body autonomy

2. that they have choices

3. what consent means in regards to giving it, asking for it and withdrawing consent at anytime

4. that ‘No Means No!’ It does not mean ‘maybe’ or ‘I’m not sure’

5. that all genders are equal

6. that gender stereotypes are out-dated and must be challenged

7. that respect for each other and our diversity is crucial for a cohesive world

8. that empathy, kindness and compassion need to be nurtured

9. that as humans we are more the same than we are different

10. that we need to stand up for others when they are unable to do so; we need to be that person that says, ‘Hey! That’s not right!’

Start educating kids from an early age. Provide age-appropriate and empowering books and resources that teach these values. Model what it means to be a true, caring, global citizen. We can do this. We need to do this. We must say #NoMore #MeToo for the next generation and ALL generations to follow.

Jayneen Sanders is a teacher, author, mother of three and writes children’s books on Body Safety, Gender Equality, Consent, Respect and Social and Emotional Intelligence